Estranged Wife of Hong Sang Soo Gives First News Interview and Blames Kim Min Hee for Putting Her Through Hell

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• this is so sad. but i do hope she doesnt give him the divorce just to throw shit in their faces. if it makes the lady more happy not giving him a divorce than giving him one, so be it lol

• Estranged wives always seem to blame the 'other women'. But surely the husbands who had known and lived with them longer longer, slept with them, had babies with them should be held more accountable than the 'other women'. Normally (I know this is a generalisation and is not always true), it is the men who pursue the 'other women'.So the wives should call out and hit out at their disloyal husbands for their infidelity. It seems to be always women blaming women. It may comfort them to think that the other women had charmed their poor, innocent, naive husbands but I think the reverse is often more true. The 'other women' often give up a lot including dignity ( as probably in this particular case), to be with those old married men who cannot control their instincts.

  • In neutral eyes, the husband maybe the worse since he is the one who is disloyal to his family. But in the eyes of his family it is really hard not to blame the woman more since the husband is always their family whose precious for them but then changed since meeting with the woman.
    I remember when my father got into affair with a woman, I just really angry with that woman because she dared to seduced my father whose already married with kids. If she never comes, my mother would never cry and our family would never become this broken.

    • Dear minni,
      Sorry to hear that.
      Thanks for sharing the perspective from the family who had gone through this sort of ordeal.
      Well, I don't agree with PohYoke that men should be blamed more than the 3rd party.

      Does it mean these women shouldn't be judged just because these men fell in love with them and left their family for them? If Kim Min Hee had said no to him, she would not end up with such a messy situation.

      And now to publicly declare her love for the man who left his family for her, that's really not classy at all.

  • Logically yes. The man is definitely more to blame.

    But emotionally i think what happens is that his betrayal gets tempered by good memories . You have lived with this man for years . You have years of affection if not love. You remember the good times. And think if not for the other woman he would be the same.

    The other woman is a complete stranger. So its easy to demonize her than rightfully blame the man who cheated on you.

    • A woman would always be blamed regardless the situation. Let's say the wife is the one having the affair, the husband and society would most likely put the blame on the wife and not the other man.

  • This. I really dislike men who cheats on their other girlfriends/wives (and vice versa). My friends and I were bridesmaids for a best friend's wedding and we got to know the groomsmen on the big day while doing the preparations together. One of the groomsmen got the number of one of my bridesmaids friends for communication purposes during the wedding and hit on her right after the wedding. My friend thought he's cute and they exchanged flirty texts until the bride told us that he's married with kids. My friend was shocked as he didn't even give a single mention about that and went completely silent after she confronted him in their chat.

  • Both Director and actress are to be blamed. However, the actresses could have said absolutely "NO" to the affair with a married man, but she chose to have an affair knowing that this guy is married. It is not demonizing the actress as wel, she didn't care how the affair would have hurt so many people. I hope the wife can get past this and move on. The Director will cheat again, as all cheaters do.

    • Jkfan
      +10000000
      That's true.
      Anyway she is gonna cheat on him in a few years time. Now that she is known to be ok to accept a married man, other younger and richer men might try for her.
      And then he will be too old and poor to look for a younger chick.

  • Please do talk about it. I don't see anywhere estranged husbands bashing and trashing "the other man for making his life hell and changing his wife" but ohhhh the other woman is the devil. Not defending KMH, but women wonder why men dont take faithfulness that seriously? It's beyond "instinct". They know for a FACT 90% of the time they wont be blamed for it. Nobody forces a guy to "find himself in a hotel room" with a mystery woman. People also always assume the woman "seduced" the man, like in a hollywood production, there are countless of cases of the other woman being insecure and not even attractive. And a lot of married men use that to there advantage, as long as she is younger. A LOT of men seduce with money, prestige and/or looks. This dude is definitely not "innocent". Come on, this BS is laughable at best. I do understand how hurt the woman feels, but if only most women thought about relationships as logically as men do.

• It takes two to Tango. They both are grown adults. She can't seduce him if he doesn't to fall for it.

  • Spot on!

    • Hyo8rim & Denali: thank you!

  • You literally took the words out of my typing fingers.

  • Or it could be the other way around: man seduced the woman and the woman fell for it.

  • Amen!

• Kim Min hee told her that she should have managed her husband better
  That's straight up evil
  This woman has taken care of his mother in her old age, and now he betrayed her
  But here's the thing, a cheater will cheat again, sooner or later
  As much in love they might be now, I doubt that Minhee and the director will have a happy ending to their affair

  • I read somewhere online (netizenbuzz perhaps) that KMH never said that and that it's fake news.

• it take 2 to break a married. her husband was wrong for trying to get young puss.

• This old man is a stupid bastard! His wife is just keeping the wedding oath, even there is no more love, they have a child together for goodness sake. Don't grant him any divorce if you disagree. You are the wife and you own the title. KMH, you deserve to lose every endorsement, stop showing off, keep the old man's body & maybe his heart for now, and shut up!

  • Candycane

    Well said!

    I don't understand why ppl are feeling sorry for HSS and KMH. And they kept blaming the wife for hanging on for a little while.

    It's mind boggling how ppl are taking affairs lightly and a long marriage like a piece of paper. And older wives like old cars.... with advices like "oh the husband or driver does not want you anymore so just be happy to let the husband get a new car and move on to the junkyard...."

    • I don't think that's the sentiment of most. I think what they meant is that she should stop holding on to someone who has no respect to her anymore. It is painful. Divorce is painful. I don't know how divorce works exactly and what kind of alimony she will receive once their properties etc. are settled, but I would agree with the others that if the only reason she's holding on is the title, it is best to just move on. She deserves peace of mind.

    • She didn't say she is hanging onto the title. We shouldn't speculate on her reasons other than what she had shared with the media. She said she loves him. And she never say it's out of spite. Even though it sounded silly to some ppl but that's her choice.

      I noticed some ppl even accuse her of being bitter etc but I don't see her being bitter. We should not judge her beyond the facts in the interview.

• I think it's not fair to put the marriage blame to kim min hee as they been live in separate place in 10 years,
  he had cheat multiple times and ask divorce many times,
  I know people would think that I have no soul to sympathize with the adultery but I've seen how people try to push broken marriage and the put the blae on other people who came late when their marriage and the affair is 2 different things,
  her husband seems to always choose the divorce even without kim min hee

  the news about caring the late mother also questionable since it's been said that the mother already passed away.
  I know cheater is bad but if they already on broken marriage then the marriage fall in both of the participant,
  marriage is about making everything work and if one want to stop trying then you don't need to keep the oath just because you already have oath,

  the more the wife blamed kim min hee, the more I think she just doesn't want to be a divorce woman than care about her husband or anything,

  • Why are people against the wife so much?
    It's weird how some folks are standing up for Kim Min Hee...

    • In the name of "modern" society ?

    • I've seen the broken marriage and put the blame to the outsider for the marriage is not how to solve things,

      The broken marriage between my parents happen because they both acted ridiculous, one holding too much in dead leaves and let other people related to them be the mock of the society, the other go with his separate lives with another partner,
      holding onto something that's been broken in years and hurting people involves because you get hurt is a revenge,
      someone need to know where to stop before making everything a muddy water,

      if I say that the reason my dad cheat is because how my mum is too controlling and the reason their marriage break up is because they never solve their problem, why would I blame other people for their marriage,
      yes the other woman is wrong but to be fair, everyone has their share to blame, including the wife

• I rarely post here on things of this nature but I think the wife is holding unto a rotten string here, its more than time to let him go/dispose of rotten string. From reading the previous posts I believe that there is a strong likelihood that he has been a habitual cheater in the years that they have been married who after being found out etc has always returned to the wife with the usual excuses of I love you, please forgive me, I will not do it again and she takes him back every time with the hopeless hope that he will keep so called promise. Since he knows that she will take him back he still does it as its routine for him he really does not love her as she wants maybe he even mentally dislikes/despise her; I hope she gets herself tested for STDs every time he does this.

  This time its different, he really wants to leave the wife, she is refusing thinking he will do the same thing. But because she is refusing he and said mistress has decided to make things very public and to me its very humiliating and embarrassing to see that she is holding on to someone who clearly does not to be associated with her. Its also very hurtful for the children/child as well for their family business to be shown in such a negative manner no matter the age. The wife is looking extremely desperate and pathetic to me, I do not think she loves him as she has claimed its something else (it could even be routine for her as well) - its a rotten string let him go and be someone else's problem. To me all three parties are in the wrong here - the husband for continuously cheating, disrespecting and humiliating his family on both sides (wife & his) and showing a bad example of being a man to his children; the wife for enabling and allowing herself to be continuously disrespected in such a shameful manner by the husband and showing a poor example of womanhood to her children as they are seeing, hurting & learning from all this; the mistress for allowing herself to be disrespected, losing her dignity over a married man even if she loves him and letting things get this far which shows debilitating manner towards her career etc. all for married man. Even if resolved because of how it is publicly dramatized there will be no winners and the consequences is already becoming huge.

  Wife with the latest behavior that these two have shown the world to you and your children etc. it is clear that he will never go back to you and will continue to live with his mistress in front of world to see. Try to retain a tiny bit of dignity about it, lose the desperation/being pathetic/martyrdom and dispose/divorce yourself from him and his life all you have shown us is absence of pride, lack of self love and lack of self respect nothing else as it is not faith nor love.

  • THIS

  • Chasen8888

    You seem to have so much negative things to say about the wife...

    All she did was to say that she loves the husband and that KMH is the 3rd party. She is telling the truth. Why are you upset at the wife?

    • I am upset at all three parties, because it did not have to be this way and its a very sad situation. I understand honoring wedding vows, love, honor, respect each other etc. till death do us part stuff. However when those wedding vows has become very tainted its a different story. This may seem harsh but I look on it as a form of emotional abuse that has been going on for years to the point that its accepted part of the person. Think about she blames the mistress for coming between them not the husband who is just as culpable or may be more so. Going from the reading the articles so far one gets the fact that this marriage has gone bad for years, there is a strong likelihood that its not his first time for doing this and its not the first time she has taken him back etc. accepting of all sort of excuses until he starts again. How much do you want to bet that she has always blamed the mistress as per his information? Affairs are not a silo experience it takes two consenting adults who must take responsibility, he never took responsibility and in a way manipulated her to that thought process.

      It is clear that the man does not love her or his family with such public actions, nor does the mistress cares whether the wife or family gets hurt either, their objective is to get a divorce so he can move on. Yet she loves him and is willing to take him back and is blaming the other person like he is blameless by not granting a divorce etc. That's not love that's an emotional abuse, to be accepting of such treatment of someone who is married to you and never respected the true meaning of marriage in the first place. What will she gain if she takes him back after all this, for her to go through this public humiliation/hell. All I am saying is that yes you can love a person but you ought to love yourself more, you ought to show the world that you are a person who is of worth and respect. He nor the mistress are showing that at all to anyone most especially her, there is no love, there is no vow, there is no respect, there is no honor, there is no loyalty, there is no marriage. Is she happy right now? Should he return (highly unlikely) does it mean that they will be happy? It doesn't because he was not a happy person in the first place.

      It is her life and I respect that but she should not tell the world that its okay to be treated this way, go through hell because of them and is hoping that he will come back to her - to what end, to show that she is a trooper and loyal and has fortitude to accept such abusive treatment from the other? From what I understand he has left that marriage years ago, he is never coming back. Loving yourself and loving a person also means that sometimes in order to be a person and regain yourself you have to let go of one that is poisonous to you. It is clear that the whole situation is toxic, why stay in one? It can lead to death and more pain. Let them be each other's poison. Oh by the way I have seen this before so I have an idea as to what I am talking about that's why I blame all three persons. In the end the wife regained herself by letting go of the toxic relationship, it took a while but she found happiness again. If she sees him on the road, she will say hi but that's it, she has not forgotten but she has moved on and is creating her own place. That's all I want for the wife for her not to subject herself to such poor treatment and emotional abuse, no matter how bad the marriage was she does not deserve this. I want her to find her own place and her own happiness without the toxicity surrounding her. If she wants to wait that's fine but from what I have been reading its best to let them go and move on. Try to regain herself without the man.

  • LOL, same here. I don't believe this man has been loyal to her this whole time. He basically said the movies he made were a looking glass to himself and his experience. The main characters of his latest movies were mostly a tired, grumpy, respected arthouse film director who didn't do well commercially, were unhappily married and actively seduced or had affair with single women whether they're aspiring actress, or admiring staffs, or students, etc. This cheater is no saint.

    KMH is wrong, too. Nothing could justified what she did. But, seriously. From single hottie Jo In Sung, to him? Damn, gurl need a brain scan. I believe love is a matter of choice, not destiny or heart thingy. So yeah.

    I said let the wife do what she wants. She might be sitting in her house with victorious smile and finding solace by successfully ruining KMH's career, who knows.

    • Passerby

      Very well said
      Let the wife be happy
      She looks like a marriage martyr and perfect role model now so let her sit at home and enjoy her life without the ugly and grumpy old husband.

• I don't understand why the wife wants to hold on to the husband.

  I'm not sure if it's true but i read elsewhere that they have been living separately for 10 years and that the husband has been trying to get divorced all this time.

  The wife is trying to "punish" them but actually it just harms herself more by hanging on so bitterly.

  Instead, if she agrees to the divorce, she would be able to move on and may lead a much happier life.

  • Why can't she hang on?
    He married her and used her so it's up to her to hang onto the marriage.

    If he didn't love her then he should have divorced her in her 20s/30s instead of leaving her now.....

    He is happy getting a young chick and now she can't even get money from the divorce coz he spent all the money on KMH.

    • What does she get out of hanging onto the marriage? This is a neutral question; I'm not taking sides.

    • Why can't she hang on?
      After all she is getting nothing whether she hangs on or not.
      However if she hangs on, then HSS and KMH get more desperate coz they can't marry.
      If she lets go, then he will kick her out of thd house

      The longer she hangs on, then maybe he might squeeze out better terms for her so that she can get a little bit of allowance....
      Anyway that's just my guess... divorce lawyers would know better....

    • clearly she wasn't holding on to anything if they have been separated for 10 years . seems like she wanted to be a wife in name only and dont want to be labeled "single mother, divorcee"

• wonder how much he's getting paid to drag this out while media do what they can to cover up the presidential mess

  • wonder how much they're getting paid to drag this out while media do what they can to cover up the presidential mess

  • It's not like people only focus on one news item. And I doubt this is a real buzz outside the entertainment world.