Much as I’m finding enjoyment in Missing You for reasons unrelated to its quality writing or lack thereof, it’s truly frustrating to have the really obvious ham-handed narrative shoved in my face all the time. This drama feels like the writer is writing around her conclusion or tailoring things to fit her script. As opposed to an organic fluid approach where what happens flows with a sense of purpose. Initially that manufactured narrative manifested itself in the buckets of sad things heaped one on top of the other to the main characters. Now that the sadness and woe has been toned down, what’s happening is a terribly dumb rapist murder plot (let’s not forget ridiculous Nurse Hye Mi drowning plot) that is forcing the characters to have reasons to keep interacting. What’s keeping this thing grounded is in the conversation and interactions between the three leads. Jung Woo annoyed me immensely with his forcefulness in interacting with Soo Yeon, but redeemed himself with his conversation with Ah Reum and Eun Joo about Soo Yeon likely hating him and wanting nothing to do with him.
If he knows that, then he needs to back off and let HER decide what she wants to do. Soo Yeon was believably torn with all sorts of emotions coming whooshing back towards her, but I loved how she really expressed what Harry means to her. Forget the romantic love, he was the person who did not abandon her in her time of need. What hurts Soo Yeon is the moment Jung Woo left the warehouse, and it doesn’t matter that he later tried to help her or kept looking for her. What mattered is that in the split second he made a choice, it would forever stand between the both of them. Whereas Hyung Joon told Nurse Hye Mi that he wasn’t leaving without Soo Yeon and he used his smarts to get her to take care of them. That is what Soo Yeon remembers and what’s important to her now. Yes, she has lingering feelings and unresolved issues with Jung Woo, but at the end of the day, one guy left her at her moment of need while the other didn’t. Girl’s got every reason to stick with one over the other at this point.
Episode 8 recap:
Jung Woo suggests that he and Soo Yeon be secret lovers and pulls her closer to him. Dur, do not get handsy with her, not cool dude! She pushes him off and says to let go, this joke is too much. He tells her not to talk and then he forcibly takes her away by putting his arms around her shoulders. He tells her that he’s going crazy right now. Yes, imma go crazy on your ass if you don’t stop physically moving this girl around.
Hyung Joon stares at them leaving and finally gets anxious and gets out of the car to chase them but his leg hurts and he can’t move. He watches as Jung Woo drives Soo Yeon away. Hello? You have a car, Hyung Joon, use it.
Jung Woo drives while Soo Yeon asks where they are going? Hung Woo says to go to that restaurant needs to wait until nighttime when they can enjoy the view. He wonders what to do now during the day. She tells him to stop the car and he reminds her that she asked to be friends when she was in Seoul. Jung Woo says she picked a good friend, he’s been thinking of what to do with Soo Yeon for the last 14 years. Dinner, movie, amusement park. Soo Yeon looks out the window as he talks. He asks if it’s enough for her to turn her head, for her to get angry? He starts saying the same “let’s be friends” line and ends with Zoe.
Hyung Joon looks at his phone and then sees Secretary Nam and Jung Woo’s stepmother. Stepmother tells Secretary Nam about Harry and Zoe being a couple (and Harry is Zoe’s sponsor) and Secretary Nam makes the connection with Zoe is Lee Soo Yeon. If they can land either one, the other will come alone. She tells Secretary Nam to make it happen.
Jung Woo takes Soo Yeon to a restaurant he frequents and asks if he’s got the chops to be a secret lover. Soo Yeon orders very expensive wine that she claims suits him well. Soo Yeon asks if he is free tomorow, she needs to go to Hong Kong to buy a few things. Jung Woo says she’s exactly the type he likes.
Jung Woo grabs her hand and says that no matter if she goes to Hong Kong or anywhere else, he won’t let her go again. She tries to pull it back and tells him to let go repeatedly. Jung Woo says today they can eat, tomorrow they can shop, they can do anything they want together. He says they should go to the neighborhood playground to ride the swings.
Soo Yeon snatches her hand out of his and Jung Woo remembers how their bloody hands were joined before the rapist dragged Soo Yeon away. Soo Yeon slaps him for being impertinent and says she shouldn’t have come on to him in the first place. He laughs and says the slap felt good and this is enough for today. Jung Woo walks away to get the car and we see her hand shaking.
Soo Yeon gets in her car and speeds off. Stepmother arrives and warns Jung Woo not to show up near her store. Jung Woo shows her the pictures she sent to Soo Yeon and warns her to stay away from her. Stepmother thought Zoe would bring a lawyer and instead she went to a cop. Stepmother wonders what Jung Woo’s connection with Soo Yeon is.
Soo Yeon drives and thinks back to her meeting earlier with Jung Woo, as well as how young Jung Woo asked to be friends with the murderer’s daughter Lee Soo Yeon. Soo Yeon calls Hyung Joon and finds out he’s resting in bed because he was injured. She rushes home.
Jung Woo calls Soo Yeon and she doesn’t pick up. He gets a call from Hyung Joon, who is returning his call. Hyung Joon asks for an update on the autopsy of Nurse Hye Mi, which isn’t ready. Jung Woo asks for some time to meet but Hyung Joon says another time since he’s getting medical treatment due to his injured leg. Jung Woo asks to meet earlier otherwise he will feel even more apologetic towards Hyung Joon. You think? Coveting someone else’s fiancée is clearly not decent upstanding behavior.
Eun Joo is home and sees Ah Reum bringing over clothes for her oppa Jung Woo. Jung Woo comes home and Ah Reum teases that she’s here to check to see if the unni and the ahjumma are mistreating him.
Soo Yeon’s mom comes home and asks why he wanted to eat chicken soup, wondering if he’s not feeling well. He says his heart feels empty and wants to be nourished. The four of them sing and dance in the house.
Soo Yeon goes home and rushes to Hyung Joon’s room and finds him resting in bed. The doctor leaves and tells Soo Yeon that Hyung Joon’s leg is very weak right now and he’s not allowed to bike anymore.
Hyung Joon asks how the battle with Jung Woo’s stepmother went? She admits that she saw Jung Woo and that interrupted her. She was surprised that after so much time, he appears to still have lots of memories of Soo Yeon, which she chalks up to guilt. She asks if he wants to hear the truth and Hyung Joon of course, like that is how they always communicate. Sigh, so wonderful.
Soo Yeon says that initially she wanted to punish him but its causing her unhappiness because she hates remembering that she was the daughter of a murderer and hates remembering…… It took her so much to forget Lee Soo Yeon. If it wasn’t for Hyung Joon 14 years ago, she would have died after being abandoned. She wanted to tell Jung Woo that it’s too late now, but she thought about it and realized it’s not necessary. Now everyone has their own lives. She has confirmed once again that Lee Soo Yeon’s death is best for everyone.
She ask Hyung Joon “tell me I did well.” Hyung Joon reaches out his hand to give her emotional support and she puts her hand in his. Soo Yeon asks if the party can still go on with his injured foot. Hyung Joon says its for his clients so it needs to go on. Soo Yeon says that she’ll leave Seoul after the party and go wait for Hyung Joon. FINALLY! Someone in the drama acting in a productive way rather than moping and psychological self-flagellation.
Jung Woo, with clothes pins in his hair, is washing clothes at home. Ah Reum is spending the night and she tells Jung Woo to go home. Jung Woo asks Ah Reum as a woman to tell him how much Soo Yeon likely must hate him. Ah Reum says she doesn’t know but if it was were, she would want revenge. Because meeting Jung Woo changed her life and brought her such scars.
Jung Woo agrees and says he would do the same. But Ah Reum quickly says Jung Woo hasn’t been living well either all these years and if Soo Yeon knew she wouldn’t do it. Jung Woo says Soo Yeon should hate him and want to hit him and glare at him and refuse to acknowledge him. He mimics all the things Soo Yeon did to him and Ah Reum asks if her oppa has gone crazy. Eun Joo comes out and tells Ah Reum to go home since she’s so noisy.
Jung Woo and Eun Joo make plans to visit Detective Kim at the cemetery this weekend. Eun Joo tells Jung Woo that the woman isn’t Soo Yeon and he needs to stop seeing her. That is the best course for him.
Jung Woo is at the police station and asking about the investigation. His partner interrupts Jung Woo’s information gathering and Jung Woo uses his cajoling on him. He tells Jung Woo about the phone and Zoe. Jung Woo remembers now that Zoe said her phone was stolen. He runs into the cleaning ahjumma who pulls him aside to chat.
The rapist’s brother arrives at the police station and causes a ruckus when he sees Jung Woo. The police assure him that the murderer will be caught. The brother accuses Jung Woo but the police says Jung Woo has an alibi.
The brother suddenly suggests that it could be Lee Soo Yeon. Jung Woo is furious and says he is not allowed to say her name. If he says it one more time Jung Woo will arrest him. He vows that the pain inflicted on Soo Yeon, he will get it back a thousand fold.
Stepmother is home with evil Dad who ignores her during dinner. Why is Evil Dad wearing a hot pink track suit? WHY? And his pornstache? Yikes. The younger Secretary reports that the money withdrawal is still in progress. Dad asks for the whereabouts of Secretary Nam.
Secretary Nam is meeting with Hyung Joon, remarking that its hard to get into his vast mansion. Hyung Joon says the house that his mother used his life to exchange for him, of course he won’t let anyone in easily. Secretary Nam reveals he knows about Hyung Joon and Soo Yeon and wants a bribe to keep quiet. Hyung Joon says greed is always the motivation and tells Secretary Nam to bring him evil Dad’s secret account books first as a gesture of good faith.
Evil Dad calls Secretary Nam asking to arrange a meeting with Hyung Joon, for himself and his wife is also interested in meeting him. Hyung Joon says thing are getting more interesting and agrees.
Soo Yeon is shopping for Hyung Joon for the party when Jung Woo shows up and offers to try it on. Soo Yeon ignores him and continues shopping. Jung Woo wants to ask about her missing cellphone when she takes her new one out to snap pictures of the clothes and calls Harry to send him the pictures. Jung Woo can see how happy she is talking to him and looks down.
Soo Yeon picks out an outfit for Hyung Joon down to even the scarf, worried that he might catch a cold. Jung Woo leaves and Soo Yeon zones out a bit and when she turns around Jung Woo has left.
Soo Yeon angrily leaves the store and Jung Woo is outside asking to talk. She ignores him and then gets a text asking for 5 minutes. She sees Jung Woo following her in the car. Soo Yeon finally pulls over and Jung Woo teases her that even if they are secret lovers they shouldn’t meet in such secluded places. He asks where she lost her cellphone because he’s investigating.
Soo Yeon drives off and Jung Woo gets a text from Hyung Joon asking to meet. He follows Soo Yeon back home and they walk into the house together. Hyung Joon is on the second floor and notes that they walked in together. He asks Jung Woo to come up to talk.
Jung Woo asks Hyung Joon about the car accident and Hyung Joon confirms it happened. Jung Woo points out Soo Yeon’s excessive fear which Hyung Joon brushes off as her being scared of such things since childhood. He explains that they were in an accident before which is why his leg is inured. She was traumatized by it and shortly thereafter they were adopted.
Hyung Joon says it happened when they were 3 or 4 years old so he doesn’t remember. Jung Woo switches to personal matters and says Soo Yeon is very similar to a girl he knew. If she refuses to admit it there is a reason as well, because she’s still very angry at him. He knows she must hate him. Everything about Zoe is just like Soo Yeon.
Hyung Joon tells Jung Woo to get a DNA test then. He doesn’t mind. Soo Yeon walks up and says she’ll do it if Harry wants her to. She’ll do even more outrageous things for him, because he saved her. When she was small and in that car accident, it was Hyung Joon who saved her. She was catatonic and couldn’t feel anything. It was Hyung Joon who held her hand and made her wake up. He said “I am not leaving without her.”
Soo Yeon tells Jung Woo he might remember Soo Yeon’s voice but for her, she will never ever forget Hyung Joon’s voice from back then. Until the day she dies she won’t forget it. She asks if he’s waiting for Lee Soo Yeon still? If he’s still waiting and she doesn’t come, that means she’s discarded him. She offers to go right now for the DNA test.
Jung Woo stands up and says it’s not necessary. He’s waited 14 years and he can wait longer. He remembers everything about Soo Yeon, that it was 108 steps from her house to the street lamp. Even if she doesn’t come he will not give up. She’s wrong – waiting and she’s still not there isn’t because she doesn’t want to come, it means she’s still on her way. He ends the conversation and leaves with tears in his eyes.
Soo Yeon can’t believe he still remembers everything, while Hyung Joon looks concerned.
Jung Woo goes to the parking garage and keeps thinking whether Zoe is Soo Yeon. He hears the police officers discuss who has reason to hate the rapist and his partner suggests Lee Soo Yeon, who might still be alive.
They investigate further and find out the rapist used a cellphone from France.
Han Tae Joon and his secretary are waiting for Hyung Joon at a restaurant and he calls from home, where he is playing pool, and lies that he can’t make it due to a car accident. Evil Dad is annoyed and Hyung Joon just casually apologizes. Soo Yeon brings him a glass of juice and he shushes her.
Turns out the dry ice used to hurt the rapist was mailed to his house and addressed to him. But the sale record shows that it was purchased by Soo Yeon’s mom, which Jung Woo says must be a mistake.
When approached, Mom cries and tells the cops to arrest her. She’s wanted that guy dead many times. She’s worried about Jung Woo and says he’s like her son and if anything happened to him she won’t be able to live.
Jung Woo looks at the CCTV footage and sees a woman driving a car wearing a baseball cap, and it’s Soo Yeon. He starts to cry.
Hyung Joon is in his secret room, which had a framed picture of his mother and lots of files and the CCTV feed of the entire house. He takes off the necklace his mom gave him and he cries when thinking of how he escaped the dogs and seeing his mom locked up. He puts on the cross necklace and goes outside when he hears Soo Yeon calling him.
Hyung Joon walks out and Soo Yeon comes in with two pairs of shoes asking for Hyung Joon’s opinion. Hyung Joon wants to give her a present since today is her last day in Seoul.
He takes off his necklace and places it around her neck.
Hyung Joon then leans in to kiss her and Soo Yeon tenses a bit and allows it only to turn her head at the last moment.
Hyung Joon smiles and says its alright, he will wait for her any time.
The party begins and Han Tae Joon arrives and sees Hyung Joon’s back and the cane. Secretary says the man is younger than he expected. When Hyung Joon turns around, Evil Dad is shocked to see it was the kid on the bike who almost ran him over.
He notices that Hyung Joon’s leg is injured and walks over to greet him. The two men shake hands and Hyung Joon gives his name as Harry. This scene is so hilarious because this look on Hyung Joon makes him look like he’s 12 years old and playing pretend with his dad.
Hyung Joon sits down and Soo Yeon frets over his injured leg. He smirks and she asks why? Hyung Joon tells her to look to her left and she sees Han Tae Joon staring at them. She asks him who that man is, he makes her spine shiver? Hyung Joon asks if she wants him to go teach Evil Dad a lesson. This doesn’t bother her and when something does scare her she’ll tell him.
Jung Woo’s partner checks the phone records and says the last number dialed was to Hyung Joon’s house and learns that Hyung Joon took away the CCTV box. At the party, Evil Dad keeps staring at Hyung Joon and Zoe, and the camera keeps focusing on the key necklace she is wearing. Hyung Joon moves to take Zoe away when Jung Woo shows up.
Thoughts of Mine:
When I watch MY I find myself really noticing a lot of visual details at the expense of a story progression that tries my patience. I notice Yoon Eun Hye clothes and her every lipstick change. I notice Yoo Seung Ho’s watches and his shoes. I notice Yoochun’s make up bruises on his face. While the drama is admittedly still pretty to look at, having that be the first thing to engage my viewing interest is never a good thing. The rapist investigation is bordering on a farce, and the fact that a bajillion coincidences are about to tie it to Soo Yeon leaves me clucking already over why this drama can’t just be about her coming back to Korea and facing her demons once and for all. Not that she needs to, because I don’t believe getting over a shared trauma necessitates the participants to go through therapy together. It’s like saying the survivors of a plane crash need to get together and work through their issues. I would prefer the writer take out all the murders, deaths, revenge plots, and focus on healing the characters not through outlandish plot contrivances but through sincere interactions.
Once again the scenes in the hybrid Lee home really stole the episode. Jung Woo, Ah Reum, Eun Joo, and Soo Yeon’s mom together act like people and communicate like normal human beings. Once outside of that cocoon they are start acting wonky again, especially Jung Woo. I really disliked how forceful he was with Soo Yeon, and don’t get me started with the grabbing her shoulders to steer her off or grabbing her hand in the restaurant. What happened to no means no. I don’t care if he thinks she secretly wants it or even likes it, but he has no right to get all up in her personal space. Especially since she repeatedly voices her displeasure at it. I feel like Jung Woo has been living for 14 years over HIS guilt, and meeting Soo Yeon his first act is to do what HE wants, namely to see her and talk to her and push himself back into her life. Can’t he see that she appears just fine, with a rich fiancée and a fashion designer career. Yes, he can atone, but can’t he let her decide what she wants from him before pressing forward with what he wants to do?
I guess what really makes Hyung Joon-Soo Yeon work for me is their level of candid communication and trust with each other on their feelings (though he’s keeping the whole “imma avenging my mother” bit secret from her). It’s clear she’s not ready to get all intimate with him and that averted kiss is likely not the first time. But I don’t have a problem with that, because she is a rape victim and if she needs more time before getting romantical with Hyung Joon, then I appreciate that he gives it to her. What’s more telling is how comfortable she is with real intimate skinskip, the kind where she puts her legs on his and the full bodied hugs. Clearly she’s still scared of sexual intimacy, but she’s already got the emotional intimacy with Hyung Joon to ground her. I think this story really has potential on addressing issues of anger and resentment, but the execution is so far just weighing it all down while the actors try to raise it back up.
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Thanks unnie! Couldn't sleep all over night to read ur recap:) aja aja fighting :)
Although I do not agree with one word you said .. Thank you for the recap
Thanks for your recaps, Koala!
I have to admit, I find myself fast forwarding all scenes except SY-HJ. They are srsly the only reason that I keep watching this ridiculous drama. I was quite annoyed with Jung Woo, and this is not a way for me to start rooting for the supposed OTP that still doesn't quite make sense to me.
My ship will sink but I'm going down with it. However, I'm probably going to cry buckets when Soo Yeon "leaves" Hyung Joon. Just watching him try to run to her and couldn't because of his bum leg saddened me.
When he started to get anxious that really got me in the gut. He's always so calm and cool but when it comes to Soo Yeon, its like she activates him to feeling mode when he's had to be in control mode his entire life to survive and succeed until now.
I love the way YSH is acting his part in this drama. The thought that runs rampant, is when did he get so manyly and damn attractive? Clearly, I should be locked up for having some pedo thoughts, lol.
Anyway, I digress. I really don't understand the writer's thoughts or which direction she's going. I appreciate Yoochun's acting in this drama but his character just didn't grab me and now it's just such a major turn off. Even though I felt really bad for him when HJ and SY were toying with him, I draw the line at manhandling and being too grabby. The stalker-like tendencies isn't helping.
Watching HJ leaning over to kiss her and her clear rejection, that look on that boy's face completely killed me. I wonder if I have the willpower to keep watching train wreck that's bound to happen.
I am with Na Ra. What you said is all your own feeling and conjecture, which I guess this blog is about and I wholly disagree but I will say thank you for the recap. I would thank you for the pictures but you really only post nice pics of SY-HJ, which is disappointing. I think I will have to find another place to read recaps because I find myself getting angry reading yours all the time and that's not the way I want to feel. Because although you don't like it, the writing or where the story is heading (why pretell are you still watching then??) there are some drama fans out here that do like it. So annyoung (spelled wrong I'm sure)...
I did say from the outset that I was only recapping the Hyung Joon-Soo Yeon scenes from MY, though I ended up recapping more. But ultimately I've never led anyone to believe my recap would focus on Jung Woo. I write it for myself, and I want to read about and discuss HJ-SY.
I'm sorry for my harsh comment.
If you only recapping the Hyung Joon-Soo Yeon scenes, why does the title go to Missing You Episode 8 recap? You should write Hyung Joon-Soo Yeon's scene on Episode 8 recap or something. I remember when you wrote about Bu Bu Jing Xin recap, you clearly wrote a recap for specific scene.
@mimi: you're right. This blogger should have titled this that way so that people who happen to bypass here won't be misguided by her...
@mimi and @grace2 I agree with u. Her recap title is so misleading. She should have written HJ and SY scenes recap instead and shouldn't have lured readers. No wonder her blog has bad reputation.
@mimi
I don't think you read my reply. I started off intending to write recaps of only HJ-SY scenes but I ended up recapping the entire episode. I recapped every scene. I don't see the need to retitle my recap (setting aside my prerogative to title as I see fit) since that would be misleading.
@grace2
How did you end up bypassing my blog? Did you get lost on the way to somewhere? Was I merely a stop on your route and you were lured here? Please do share because I'm curious.
@ hahaha
I have a bad reputation? AWESOME! Please clarify what exactly you mean by "bad".
--------> Am I infamous? Like Al Capone.
--------> Am I unreliable? Like Fox News.
--------> Am I terribly inept at what I do? Like Will Hung at singing (but then my sheer ineptitude makes me loveable).
--------> Am I cluelessly thinking I'm cool but I'm not? Like Rebecca Black. So maybe instead of writing I should have my parents bank me to produce my own single. I title it "I Don't Really Miss Dramas on Tuesdays" or something like that.
--------> Am I living in my own world? Like Karl Rove on election night.
--------> Am I issuing decrees that my edicts cannot be challenged in the court of judicial opinion? Like Mohammed Morsi. Or at least until a new drama comes along, much like Egypt gets a new constitution.
What kind of "bad" am I in the reputation department? There is an entire spectrum of bad reputations ranging from Hitler to Lindsay Lohan. Or you could mean "bad" in the "you naughty minx" sort of way, in which case I can say I never accidentally had a sex tape leaked so my reputation has not been sullied. :-)
Thank you for your recap...Koala...I have to concur with @Na Ra and Mellissa that I do not agree with your recap...
I just finish watching it raw, and I was hoping to come here and make sense of it all since I don't understand korean...
Unfortunately, I couldn't get pass the first few sentences, so much of your JW's dislike too apparent...
Of course it's your blog and it's your prerogative,...but I was just hoping for some objectivity at least in the recaps themselves, then your own thoughts later in the end...
I guess I will have to wait for the subs, then come back here to participate in the discussion...Thanks anyways...I still love your blog.
Hi sogazelle.
I don't hate Jung Woo. I just don't think he's right for Soo Yeon. And I did hate all his very forceful actions towards Soo Yeon in this episode. I hate men who touch, grab, and move a woman without her explicit consent. He did that so much in the beginning of this episode I was truly stunned to see him behaving so inappropriately and really a huge turn off. It's not romantic, he was behaving like a jackass. That was a big No No for me, and I would think as a woman we want to have the right to tell a guy to back off and give us personal space and don't touch us unless we allow it.
Indded. Well said.
Perhaps because from the start, you have already sided your feelings towards SY-HJ?? That's why you feel extremely angry when JW did what he did to SY? Perhaps it won't feel that bad it HJ played the "JW" character?
Haha.. just my two cents ;p
I felt the same way. I love Micky, but I dont watch this drama for him. The stalking I kind of get, he is trying to keep himself in her life and doesn't want to lose what might be his only chance to make things right with her, but the manhandling... that was out of character for JW whose a respected cop.
@ Tien. The JW character is badly written. Any wrist grab written in a drama has to evoke sexual tension. This one didn't.
JW is not an easy character to play. Infact it's a more difficult character to play than HJ. HJ is the typical revenge-drama hero. YSH adds a little vulnerability to it, that's all. JW has so much negetive baggage and he has to make the audience love him despite it.
A really good actor might be able to play the character differently and set a different mood with his glances or his body language. And I'm not sure there are many actors who can do that.
Veterans actors actually can ask for thier scenes rewritten. Yoo Ah In did that a lot in SKKS. This is probably why Geol-oh was loved so much.
You know, I am hesitating watching this one because what I read about JW's interaction with SY made my blood boil.
I am curious if you think the writers:
➛ Don't give a rat's ass about SY's PTSD and think that JW getting all controlling with her is just his way of showing love?
➱ We are going to see a JW who keeps doing these insensitive things to SY until she finally breaks down in front of him, terrorized, and he sees the error of his ways?
➨ They actually ARE showing us that JW is kinduv a selfish jerk who will never get his first love back?
I did have high hopes that the childhood rape wasn't just a makjang check-off, and that it would be developed intelligently and sensitively.
I feel bad if these actors have to get through this script - working their tails off to tell a weak and eventually frustrating story.
That is usually OK if we are dealing with a silly rom-com, and you can pass if off as light entertainment treated lightly. But when you are using such heavy plot points, there is a lot more at stake for the audience.
I will probably watch this whole series, because of the actors, but I will probably complain the whole time.
Is that OK?
I know! It's insane that they are writing Jung Woo like his feelings matter more than hers. Hyung Joon backs off, Jung Woo just barrels forward. Hyung Joon always reaches out for her and allows her to come to him. Jung Woo grabs her. I FUCKING HATE THAT. I am sad the writer is going there with Jung Woo. I really like his desire to be a good person and make amends. I hate how he goes crazy around Soo Yeon and throws proper behavior out the window.
He seriously acts like he doesn't remember that she is a rape victim and he invades her personal and emotional space time and again. Even after she says to let go and leave her alone. He needs to give the girl space and not get all up in her grill all the time. Ugh. All he does all day long is mope about how much guilt he has. I wish he would just spend his days at home or in the police station where he doesn't act like a moron and instead is a very cool guy that I can totally root for.
And what makes it really super creepy was that weird smile he had when he was holding the umbrella like, "I know you really like this." Shudder...
Makes me wanna wash my eyes...Yech!
Not sure if there are groups who would protest this, but I guess if the ratings are not great, that shows people in SK are not comfortable with the story either.
I don't get it either he should back-off and give her space due to the fact she has been violated in the worst way.
I'm a lurker that felt compelled to write a response.
First of all, thanks for recapping this drama, it has helped a lot with my watching the drama before subs come out.
Second, I think that Jung Woo was still not 100% certain that SY was really SY in the beginning. He thinks she is, then he has some doubts after she says she's not, then she does these things to make him think again, but then HJ and SY purposely tell him she's not SY. Jung Woo may have approached her in the beginning a few times, but that's because the person he was looking for for 14 long years shows up (or at least he thinks it's her) and he wants to confirm if it's her or not. But then she keeps deliberately acting like she's not SY, but then comes to him saying to be secret friends and deliberately doing things that remind him of SY, and then approaches him again to further her "revenge" on him, and then SY and HJ "play" with him letting him stand out in the cold when SY herself asks JW to meet her. I think at that point, he seems to think it really is SY after seeing the video of the car accident, but he can't make sense of the way she's acting, the lies, the pushing and pulling, the facade HJ is also trying to play up, which adds to more questions. It's not that he forgot about her rape incident, not at all, and I don't get how people are getting that impression. I get the sense that when he talked with his sister about how SY would have acted, he wanted to see if it was possible that SY was really her and that the way she was acting made sense. Once she confirmed she would have been very angry, etc., he seemed to get it. It's just all confusing. I mean, the girl that was raped and then disappeared all those years ago suddenly shows up and pretends she's not who she is yet deliberately tries to do things that leaves little doubt she's really her just to irk the person, but she and her "fiance" still keep up the facade she's not her? How can't JW find that confusing...
@lol Even if one is confused, he can do that without manhandling her.
@Shiku, wish he did without the wrist-grabbing, but the taunting that SY and HJ were doing to JW was bad as well. Even if JW thinks he deserves hate (but really, he does not deserve the way they treated him), he has his limits to taking it. That's why he threw back the taunting words of SY, the "be my friend" taunt, he seemed like he was giving it back. And she continues to give it to him as well (you free tomorrow?). It's sad that they're at the antagonistic stage with each other, and I know why SY is doing this to JW (she thought he abandoned her completely), but it still does not make it right. If we're going to complain about JW, we can't let SY and HJ off the hook for any of their wrongdoings as well. Heck, HJ has to find out he killed an innocent person and make amends to the girl he orphaned (who, btw, is such a wasted character now when she was a cool kid).
@lol HJ was trying to get away from a man he thought was working for his half-brother. Can you blame him for being weary after being unleashed dogs, seeing his mum die and being kidnapped for money. He was only 8 years old but he will pay for his mistake in due time.
However, HJ was there when SY needed him. He didn't leave her for dead unlike someone else. He found a way for both him and SY to survive.
SY shouldn't toy with JW but I don't blame her. This was the guy she loved, the guy she tried to save without thinking of her personal safety, the guy who saw her be raped and the guy who left her alone with the beast who had raped her (the second time he left her when she needed him). She is entitled to feel angry and want to lash out. What JW has experienced pales miserably to what she had to go through and what she still has to go through for the rest of her life!
@Shiku, and JW was the one who saved HJ when he was caught in the fire (he busted the door open injuring himself to get him out). And yes, HJ helped SY. And yes, I know exactly why HJ "killed" the cop, but he still cannot get off scot free for that even if it was a "mistake". And the first time JW ditched SY, that's because he just learned her father was a murderer. He was in shock like SY knew he would be, she knew he would leave, what she didn't expect was him to wise up and learn the error of his ways and befriend her again. The second time he left her he was shocked by what happened to her and afraid for his life, it was seriously all too intense, it was a split second bad decision he made to run for it, but my gosh, it was a human mistake that we should not punish JW for for his whole life. He thought they would kill him. HJ may have saved SY from the nurse killing her, but he knew the nurse needed him for the money and wouldn't kill him, he even mentioned it to her. Totally different situations here. The whole blame goes to the darned rapist and the adults that started this whole thing. And we are not doing the comparing traumas thing to see how someone should be treated. Of course SY had it worse than JW, and as I said, I understand why SY is doing it, but again, it does not make it right how she and HJ are treating JW. Once SY finds out the truth, she will also think it wasn't right. It's from her comments, where she was kinda surprised that JW would remember so much about SY when she thought he had completely abandoned her not caring for her. It may seem I feel more badly about JW than SY or HJ, but that's not the case. I can write a whole page about how SY and HJ were wronged in life and how pitiful they are, but this website is mostly talking about JW's faults and not SY and HJ's, so I thought I should defend JW here.
We can agree to disagree. The fact is, all three leads are flawed, they all have done bad things, the actions of the adults have negatively affected all three of them, the adults should get what's coming to them.
Where did I say HJ gets away scot-free? I clearly wrote he would still have to pay for that.
JW wasn't there for SY when it counted and HJ was, no matter how you try to rationalize it.
@Shiku, again, different situations. If HJ and SY were both kidnapped and the guys were going to kill them both with HJ knowing they will not keep him alive, I would not be surprised at all if HJ ran as well since he's been running from the bad guys for a long time. But again, agree to disagree.
WHY U people overreacting like JW as well?
Too be honest, JW interaction w/ SY wasn't even extreme as y'all put it. I've seen worst when it comes to guy grabbing the girl & expecting us audience to think it's "romantic." In JW defense, he just found out Zoe might actually be SY & he was trying everything he can to have a conversation w/ her. Unfortunately, SY wasn't having any of it & it was only logical (in JW mind) that he should use force then.
The scenes after show that JW knew what he did wasn't proper (per his conversation w/ his sister)& he did reflect on it. Also, he's dealing the situation calmly knowing that SY has HJ now, because his follow up scenes were more towards the case that he's working. Seriously, this boy can not get anymore human than this.
SY & HJ are written as such perfect human being (despite being put in such horrible situation). They both should just return back to their own perfect little world while they still can.
Omo. Don't be so emotional.
The point is not the wrist grabbing. It is common in k-drama but how JW didn't respect Zoe or if he believe even 50% she is SY to RESPECT her feelings and space as a WOMAN if not as a HUMAN. It is simple. No woman like to treated like that.
I dont think JW is treating SY that bad. As much as i love Yoo Seung Ho, i think HJ is relationship with SY is more like sister-brother relationship. HJ is her savior, friend and brother, but not a lover. But her curiosity towards JW is a affection. Although her mind is refusing to acknowledge, her heart is going towards JW.
LOL..stop it already..thats why we call this kind of thing a drama...all of u should be rational..sometimes i kind of agree with @lol, its not like JW wish to be apart with SY for 14 years and its not like JW didnt try to find SY when she's missing..so just go with the flow..it doesnt matter if it JW or HJ, SY will end up with..lets watch together and cheer up.
p/s : silent reader before and forgive my broken english
Your English is fine. And yes, I will take your advice and stop talking about this matter now. Though when you say "let's watch together and cheer up", it's hard to be cheery about this drama, ha ha.
hehe..ikr..but like ahreum said..if SY knew JW not living well either SY wouldnt do the all the revenge things. So cheer up, we know where this drama are heading to. =)
I disagree with @ lol. As much as both SY and Harry taunting JW it is not much and they know when to STOP unlike JW. He pushed, again and again. Didn't know the limit and when to give space. That irked me the most.
I personally believe JW has believe it is 99% Zoe is Sy therefore he said, he will wait. But the force, stalking etc doesn't help.
Even if he 50% uncertain to put the possibility that she is SY he can't treated SY like that. Forceful, being selfish about his feeling etc. She is a victim of rape and the memory of being abounded after that is very harsh reality therefore, he need to understand the situation more before talking about feelings, guilt, missing, loving etc.
If he is still 15 years old, i can tolerate but he is grown up man now who should know how to RESPECT woman. Either it is Zoe, SY or other.
Apart from that, without SY around him, JW is very reasonable, thought thick-head but smart man and acting like human. He know even how to respect woman when dealing other than SY.
I think that is writing problem of the character and storyline execution.
Why you don't give any comment when Soo Yeon did some insensitive things to Jung Woo on episode 7?
On Ep 8, Jung Woo grab Soo Yeon's shoulder. on ep 7, Soo Yeon grab Jung Woo's wrist to write her number.
On Ep 8, Jung Woo follow Soo Yeon to the boutique, on ep 7, Soo Yeon go to police station to meet Jung Woo, though Jung Woo already give a hint that he didn't want to meet her (he didn't write his phone number to Soo Yeon' wrist)
If you say Jung Woo is selfish, so you could say Soo Yeon is selfish too. Vice versa.
And Soo Yeon initiated this first on episode 7, and she already said that to Hyung Joon that she wanted to torment Jung Woo.
I agree with Ms.Koala said : It’s insane that they are writing Jung Woo like his feelings matter more than hers.
So it's also insane that they are writing Soo Yeon like her feeling matter more than his, on episode 7. Truthfully, I'm so happy when I see Soo Yeon tormented Jung Woo like that.
Like everybody said, that every character here is flawed, so I think the writer want to show both character on equal way.
That's my two cents :)
Usually i like the second quarter from a drama.which is started from ep 8 because the development of the OTP love story start from there.but now i getting anxious about ep 9 and the rest in this drama because i guess it's time for SY-JW love story and SY will leave from HJ side :(.
I usually disagree with Koala to the point I kinda hate her recap lol.
I didn't like her view on 49Days, didn't get what's so good with Lie to Me, and didn't agree with her on Big story. Especially Big. I mean how could you snatch someone else women who is in coma because he saved your life!
Anyway, in I Miss You, I agree with her wholeheartedly. People may have different opinions but it's really difficult to root for JW. He is clearly a selfish jerk who didn't care at SY feelings at all.
I don't get how come 14 years of 'intimate' relationship (not the long distance one like MQ) will lose to a abrupt first love story + rape memory.
I just can't help but to think JW as a creepy bastard with a couple of extra points above the rapist since both men force themselves on SY.
Haha true, I don't always agree witih Koala's very strong views. But this time I do, wholeheartedly.
What?!? How could anyone ever disagree with me? :-P *giggles*
yeahh,,,
about IMY,,i do agree with dear koala's thoughts..
i said many times in this blog,that i really really agree with this..
^o^b
well,,many different opinions,,many point of views,,those are okey for me..everyone has her/his right.. ^_^v
i really dont like how jungwoo *well,insist maybe* to get in zoe's new life again,,after they reunited with some 15yrs old memories with many scars within... it's true that in the beginning zoe wanna torture him,, but then she knows she dont have so much power *yet* even harry knows that,,..but jungwoo doesn't.. well,,maybe bcoz those feelings about longing n missing sooyeon really make him kinda blind n then acts like sweet old friend who dying of happiness to be reunited and does skinship with her with smiles freely... that's kinda...well,,selfish..is the right words to describe that...
just my opinion
dear koala,,fighting!! ^_^b
Me too. I disagree almost everything of her recaps since it is very strong or negative but for the first time I agree. Lie To Me, Mary Stayed Out, Nice Guy, Big. Plus she dislike Arang which I love wholeheartedly.
I Miss You still in my watch list. I never know what reason I watch since i didnt watch the child episodes. I started with ep 5 but it pull me in.
Thanks koala
i think HJ was brother for SY. That is they havent engaged yet and havent had baby too. lol.
Ah, I forgot, thanks for your recap. :D
thank you so much.. and i woke up earlier for this! hahaha.. it's really something :D
i don't care about the lead actor or else, i still hope Zoe will end up with Harry..
#teamHarryIMY
me too...reading miss koala's recap just to find story between SY and HJ..:)