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Secret Love Affair Episode 5 Recap — 55 Comments

  1. I told myself I wasn’t going to watch or read about a drama for awhile cuz you’ve already got me hooked on Lost You Forever but I caved and started reading the recap for episode 4 and now I think I’m hooked on another drama. Thanks koala! Your blog has become crack for me, I check it several times a day!

  2. Very intense drama with so much trouble ahead. The feelings the couple have for each other will be explode no matter how they are going to control it.

  3. Thank you Ms K. Been waiting for this. Actually what I fail to understand (even after watching like 3 times) is why did HW kiss SJ as a ‘punishment’. I know she feels pent up but that surely is an odd punishment to mete out for someone who feels jealous about your husband calling you by the name and sharing a bedroom.

    • He gets to agonize over the kiss. She knows he is infatuated with her. Her punishment is to kiss him and have it go no further. But I think she deep down was dying to do it and used the idea of punishment as an excuse. This show has human emotion down.

      • Those kisses were followed by the tightest back-hug I have ever seen. Wow, the emotion there was explosive. Now I know why Korean Dramas have back-hugs, they show both their facial expressions. It was priceless, too bad SJ was the only one not able to witness it.

  4. Jtbc is very good at making those moody dramas. This show is very well acted. It is captivating in a very special way.

  5. Am i the only one who keeps seeing Lee Young Ae everytime Hee Ae is onscreen? They look like twin sisters!! The only difference i noticed is that Lee Young Ae has a more defined chin and her eyes are bigger and set wider apart.

    It seems that Sun Jae had another round of ‘love making’ with Hye Won in this episode. XD and when Hye Won mentioned Sun Jae’s request for ‘one more time’….that had me snickering. It was a loaded statement however way you slice it.

    Yoo Ah In….gosh….this guy really knows how to set knickers on fire! That smouldering back hug….just imagining myself in his arms with that intensity….. *x-rated thoughts*.

    • Knickers on fire makes me snicker, but I totally agree.
      At the most unexpected times, too.

      The scene in the partitioned area was so intense.
      When he asks her what she thinks about him having a girlfriend.
      I must have watched it 23 times.

  6. Random thoughts:

    Hye Won didn’t go back to play again with him. My sub version says, the ahjumma saw him leaving the room when she woke up.

    After the second playfull, flirty duet aka symbolic sex she starts wearing strong colors for the first time. It’s red, she’s on fire.

    Loved the kiss and hug scene. She still tries to fool herself, that she is not interested in him and could discourage him at the same time. His hug was oh so sweet, especially as he grabbed her hand to feel her skin. He needed more contact.

    Why does Sun Jae try on the clothes with his shirt on? I’m puzzled. Shyness? Or, as YAI clearly and thankfully gained some weight, doesn’t Ah In sport abs at the moment and they didn’t want to show him naked? Whatever it is, this scene seals the deal. Her willingness to let him move out is the signal both clearly understand, their relationship will develop more, because they couldn’t possibly hide it in her house. His attempt to make her jealous with him referring to Da Mi as his girlfriend worked.

    Sun Jae says, he doesn’t want them to be discovered till the end. He knows, they don’t have a future. *sob* I hope, you’re wrong and this show really challenges the rules of Korean society!

    The camera very often shows Hye Won and Sun Jae behind something, mostly some furniture or object that looks like bars. It happened e.g. in episode one during our fist meeting with Hye Won. Madame Han was getting a massage and they were filmed through a folding screen or partition. In this episode it was shown during their meeting before choosing the clothes. The windows at her house are covered with broad jalousies that also look like prison bars. Hopefully, we’ll see less of it towards the end of the show.

    • Good observation. I thought about what SJ said too that he didn’t want to be discovered ‘until the end.’ I was thinking oh no, sad ending. Love is not always forever.

    • Great comments on the colors.

      Also, someone pointed out when SJ and HW play the piano together, they are in color harmony like the keys. He in black and she in white.

      I LOVED the meeting behind that partition. They had nothing to hide, well they did, but it felt as if they were about to have an “indiscretion” afterward.

      Do you think that if we ever get to a love scene, it’ll have the same voyeuristic feeling? They will probably film it through something. I am getting all warm thinking about it.

      Hell, any time SJ gets within 10 feet of HW I get all warm. 🙂

      • Thats coz we are all imagining ourselves in her shoes. The show is so good that it makes us feel as thrown off balance as the characters so that we live their agony, pain AND exhilaration!

      • We could even go one step further regarding clothes and colors. In the scene where paid boy toy presents his business idea, Hye Won wears red and Young Woo, too. Young Woo wears red pants, Hye Won wears a red blouse and jacket. Her heart is on fire, whereas Young Woo’s… you get my drift. 😉

    • Oops didn’t notice Newbie posted at the same time, so I guess i’m not alone ;). And YW wore red too, and the irony wasn’t lost on me that they were deriding YW for being in the exact same situation as HW is in with regards to lusting after a man. It’s just that HW thinks she would never stoop as low as YW.

    • Just read somewhere on tumblr (sorry, forget the original source) that Hye Won wore black and white the first time Sun Jae saw here on stage. The colors of the piano keyboard! Brilliant observation!

      This show is sooooo good. Every single re-watch makes you discover something new.

      I’m in love.

    • Reminds me of that film Pleasantville.
      Everything at the beginning was black and white, but as the people started to have feelings their color betrayed them. I shouted when I saw her in scarlet. The transformation has begun.

      • very astute observation. The director/cinematographer is so incredibly deft at conveying emotion and secrecy. The drama pacing is not zippy but rather a slow simmer of emotional intensity, captivating and using visuals and music to convey character intent and motivation, as opposed to dialogue and gimmicky plot lines. I’m floored by this drama’s execution, because it is not usual for k-dramas.

        there’s a certain uneasiness that is coming to the surface as the drama unfolds and shows a very tidy world unwinding and unhinging itself apart. I feel like HW has always been calculated, timed, planned and in place. She has a controlled calmness about her. It’s calm on the surface but it’s just a facade – learned through decades-worth of dealing with warring family members. She is incredibly shrewd and has enough self-awareness. HW is kind of a scary lady because she’s both capable and politically astute – self-deprecating at times but knowing her worth. I almost spat up my drink from laughing when she jokingly refers to herself (in a conversation with Madame Wan) as “a triple agent”.

        It takes a rogue talent like SJ and his musical chops to bring back that part that was once buried deep inside her (something that I think SJ felt and recognized when seeing her listen to her colleague’s and his student’s rehearsal). Because he is so unsophisticated in the ways of the world and untainted, he can only be himself: he seems shameless to others but he actually doesn’t find shame in just being who he is. It’s others that find him shameless and make him feel this way. HW’s usual deftness with managing people is entirely lost on him; the only thing reigning him in is his intense infatuation and respect for her.

        The drama is so well handled and subtle that I’m shocked: at times I feel like I’m watching a movie and not a k-drama. I just hope that the collateral damage that is to come doesn’t leave a huge “ick” factor at the end. I hate dramas that must make it their mission to pound out another trite moral of the story – something vapid and along the lines of the rich and powerful always win or a double standard of morals exists between the powerful and powerless, so SOL.

      • love all the thoughts in this drama. for me, this drama resembles age of innocence in how powerful it is emotionally and also in how the moneyed people are portrayed, the live that has to be kept secret and sacred. in that movie, the spouse played by Winona Ryder also had an inkling of the affair but chose to keep quiet but manipulated the husband to get what she wanted.

  7. OMG it’s arrived! The kiss and the backhug and the duet! THE FEELS! I’ve been revisiting this site every day to check on the recaps 😀 Thanks so much! Off to read now

  8. I think between HW and SJ their connection stems much deeper compared to YW and her boy toy. YH pays for her boy toys time while for our pianists its music.

  9. if this drama continues to be this good, it will be my favourite drama by leaps and bounds. right now, it feels like a gorgeous deeply moving movie.

    i dont share the need to know how hye won got to where she is emotionally. i see lots of people coming up with makjangy endings for the pair but i want to trust the writer and director that the heart of the story is very simple – a woman who has led a calculated life and never questioned her choices meets a young man who shakes up that world and in doing so, awakens her.

    can there be a permanent happiness for them? need there be? the question is having been awakened, could she continue to live as before again even if nothing comes of these encounters?

    i hope they wont go into those ultradramatic endings even if that is not too unrealistic and plausible in the real world too. i want a deeper exploration than that. i hope the drama will fulfill it.

    • Although I hope for a happy ending for them, I get your point about HW being awakened. She live her life complacently and habitually in her marriage and her job. I don’t think she likes her job, but it pays well and her marriage is just a partnership between 2 people.

    • I hope, they’ll get their happy ending. What would be her alternative? Leaving the job and people that ment so much to her for years, no Sun Jae, living alone with what kind of job? She is not a romantic or very emotional person, once awakened she’ll need him because they are so in sync.

      As carefully planned out as this show is, I’m willing to bet that the end is already fixed in the writer’s mind. That they needed to know the last sentence just like John Irving.

      • Me too. I trust that the writer and director has the whole story and that it will be in keeping with the tone of the show thus far.

        I too hope there is a happy ending but a happy ending may not necessarily be a happy ever after. Just like shut up flower boy band came up with a beautiful ending that no one thought of but was perfect for the show.

        Oh newbie, i so love this show, it hurts.

  10. Thanks for your recap and comments! Love reading your thoughts on the characters!

    The scene where SJ sniffs his dirty clothes in the hamper-he then turns on the taps. Do you think he’s going to hand wash his underclothes? Just wondering why the PD put that scene in. It seems a bit random, but knowing what I know of this PD’s work, I’m sure there’s some meaning behind it. I just don’t know what it is.

    • He washed his socks. We later see him take them off the shower.
      We learn he’s a thoughtfull cleanly young guy, who wants to give off a good impression (in her house).

      • Yes, I noticed that on my fourth rewatch 🙂 I also noticed he had his sock halfway on his foot when HW walks into the room, and he self-consciously takes it off, much to HW’s amusement.

        Then, ***SPOILER*** in episode 6, we see how much effort he takes to give HW a clean towel to wipe her hands after touching the dirty handrail leading to his room, and how he energetically wipes clean the floor before he lets her walk into the room.

  11. When HW’s friend Ji Joo asked her why she needed an alibi, was it to confront her husband’s chick friend in secret? We haven’t heard too much about HW’s husband’s possible flings with other women and there were some underlining hints about them, from Young Woo also. If so, could it be a justification for HW to have her own musical affair? The photo shoots in Elle of the two actors do not hide the fact there will be a lot of affections in later episodes. I am both enjoying it and being afraid at the same time because I am in love with both of them and I don’t want them to be hurt in any way.

  12. I think we know a littel bit about hey won she is like this b/s madam Han paied for ger education she fells she has to pay back. She told her friend when she was young she only thougth of being the best not living life. I think we are seeing the result now.

  13. Thanks for the recap. Has anyone seen the Elle pics of YAI and KHA ? You can see them at breathlesssurvival.wordpress.com They are hot!

    • Yup, those pictures showed no age difference at all between the man and the Goddess. Wow, Kim Hee Ae really does look great at age 47.

    • Thanks for sharing that link! Omo! Those photos are really intense and show a lot of skin on KHA’s part. Her husband must be a very self-confident and understanding man…I know I wouldn’t be able to handle my husband being in these kinds of shots even if it’s “only work”.

      • Just some trivia: in Noonas Over Flowers (taped before the filming of SLA) she mentioned to Yoon Yeo-jeong her next professional goal is to break out of her typecast roles, ones that often require her to be a lady-like and virtuous woman. So it was an incredibly important goal for her and highly aspirational for having been in the industry for so long. It’s a rarity to see actresses transition out at this stage of their career in a successful way – so SLA has worked out beautifully in this regard.

    • THAT spread convinced me to give this show a shot! BEST.DECISION.EVARRR!! This OTP makes me squeee and flail SO hard… it’s been a while since I’ve done so!! I dread for their imminent heartache. I hope against hope that they make it in the end.

  14. Thanks for the very thoughtful recap!

    I agree on HW’s double standard of judging YW’s indiscretions. Both women have the need for a man to give them some sweetness in life. They simply have different ideas of what shape that sweetness takes. I think she is starting to envy the Princess’s willingness to do something about her lonliness, rather than suffer through it.

    Ooooh! I only noticed when you mentioned that we don’t know anything about anyone’s past. I always put HW firmly in the role of orphan, but then she mentions her mother and sister.

    The jealousy scenes from this episode were fantastic. I could feel HW shudder as she imagined the younger set rolling in the sheets.
    It brings to mind a short poem I love by Richard Brautigan:

    The thought of her hands
    touching his hair
    makes me want to vomit.

    It was equally as powerful when SJ shows how hurt he is by her (rightful) marriage. He can’t stand her husband calling her by her first name or sharing the same bedroom? He is the interloper, yet he makes JH sound like the bad guy. It’s crazy but I feel bad for him at the same time.

    I know that HW has two or maybe three faces that she uses to manipulate those around her. Somehow, if it is the Chairman or YW, I don’t mind. It does bother me greatly, that she is not honest with DM. First of all because she doesn’t have anything to hide, really. Secondly, she has about a week before being discovered as Kang’s wife. Thirdly, DM has done nothing to deserve this dishonest treatment. I am pretty sure her dealings with DM are eventually what will cause the most trouble for her. I just hope DM doesn’t take out her anger on SJ, as one of my friends forecasted.

    • Yes, her dishonesty with dM bothers me too esp when she starts asking questions that she knows the answers to. It was disturbing. I suppose it is human nature though, wanting to be able to talk about someone you have an interest in (without revealing the interest) and finding out how this other person in SJ’s life saw the story ( another side to the story) and the kind of person she is.

      • She has no other choice. She didn’t want anyone to know that she was the one who saved him from jail. she made it so that her husband was the savior. First because if SJ had known the truth, he would have realised that she was already affected by him. Second, she didn’t want her husband to see what was happening. The minute, she had said, she was the wife’s professor, then DM would have known that something was going on.

      • but she could have just kept quiet completely about it. she didn’t need to bring up the subject and probed DM. in any case it is so likely that DM will find out at some point that she is prof’s wife. so feigning ignorance now seems foolish.

  15. I also wondered why HW would feign ignorance with DM. For how long did she think DM could be kept in the dark? Her finding out later would just make everything so much more awkward.

  16. Thank you for the recap. I read it twice to get in sync with your feeing of the drama.

    And yet, I cannot shake off the feeling of watching something dirty and creepy. Nothing is more revolting than a hypocrite indulging into their addiction and maintaing a righteous facade. Lies, lies, and more lies. She pays for the lies dearly though. And will pay more when it the affair is discovered.

  17. When the ahjumma calls them to eat breakfast after wrestling in SJ’s bed, DM seemed so innocent and young when she asked, hopefully, “Me, too?”. She really looked like a little kid there.

  18. I’m just so thrilled and I feel happy with them too on the piano duet in this episode~ They act so natural and believable.

  19. Reading the excellent recaps and the insightful comments here makes me understand this Korean drama much much better.
    I am a married 42 year old Singaporean woman. This drama series is not available in Singapore and I watched all 16 episodes of it on my laptop through dramafans.org. over the last 3 days after reading an introduction to this drama series in the local newspapers. (There are many K-drama fans in Singapore 🙂
    The low-definition, somewhat pixelated images and the (I suspect) less than accurate English subtitles certainly made it difficult for me to capture all the various layered nuances of the episodes. Nonetheless, this drama series (my first time watching a Korean drama) has affected me in a way I find terribly embarrassing for a mature woman my age. Recalling some of the heart achingly beautiful scenes between Hye Won and Sun Jae make me tear even now – how can a movie ever do this to me? What has become of me?!
    My heart aches every time I think of HW and SJ’s deep and touching love story. I felt lost after the final episode ended. It was like my life had lost some meaning. In some ways, I felt like I had lost a love.
    Perhaps, deep inside I too harbour a secret wish to experience the unconditional, almost selfless love of a (much) younger man as HW had.
    Oh, the thought of this makes me giddy and breathless!
    However the cynic in me asks:
    – Would a 20 year old handsome young man really be attracted to a 40 year old woman, if that 40 year old woman looks like a typical 40 year old woman (ie, with thicker waist, yellowing complexion with pigmentation spots, as is quite typical of Asian women as they age)? How many 40 year old women in reality look like HW – with a slim figure, tiny waist and fair translucent skin?
    In this aspect, is the movie really portraying something realistic?
    – Even if a 20 year old man is initially attracted to / infatuated with a much older woman due to a deeper meeting of souls and of intellect/mind and not merely at the superficial level, can his attraction be sustained for the long term? Will he not eventually sway towards the sweet young things with their taut skin and nubile, firm bodies?
    – Why was an atypically slim and good-looking (for her age) actress chosen to play the part of HW? Of course, it would look absolutely grotesque if the audience gets a sight of the drool-worthy Sun Jae hugging and kissing a sallow-complexioned 40 year old woman the same size as he is (or bigger), with droopy boobs and a thick waist.
    It is not aesthetic at all.
    – If you observe carefully, the scenes in which SJ and the young fresh-faced Da Mi are together look more natural and pleasing to the eye overall, than when we see SJ and HW together. Their age difference is clearly visible in spite of HW being very slim and with her fair, unlined face. No matter what we might say and (want to) believe, the visual effect of SJ and DM together still looks more aesthetically pleasing than the visual effect of SJ and HW together, especially if we were to view these images without any context or understanding of the nature of this May-December romance.

    Anyway I know I am saying all these cynical things in a (desperate) attempt to pull myself together psychologically and to move on with my life as it had been just 3 ago, before I had started watching Secret Love Affair.
    Sigh….

  20. Why did he bring up her name and her sharing the bed with her husband??I’m really confused about it. If someone could explain I would really be grateful

    • Dramalatte, you might have come to a conclusion on why Sun Jae said that, but here’s my take on his comment. Sun Jae holds nothing back from Hye Won. He’s incapable of not sharing how passionate he is for her. He is envious of her husband’s access to her, jealous they share the intimate space of a bedroom. Jealous he called her by an affectionate name….honey. Course he doesn’t know they are only in the same room, but in separate beds. He doesn’t know they are more like roommates than husband and wife who share love making. Sun Jae is just to much stricken by his goddess to think beyond how he feels.

  21. I understand you May! I am older than you were when you first watched SLA, a married mom, and have the same feeling of embarrassment over my obsession with this drama. It’s like I’m the one having a secret affair, with a drama!!

  22. Seon Jae’s earnest honesty slays me. His conversation with Hye Won about their kiss was so moving! For her as well, she was able to breathe only after she walked away for a while. She’s deluding herself that she doesn’t feel as strongly as he does.

     Something else I don’t like about Joon Hyung is how he dehumanizes Seon Jae. Calling him their “asset”, property, similar to how earlier he didn’t know how to deal with someone “like that” i.e. poor. Uuugh.

    The punishment kiss. HW wants -needs? – to touch SJ so badly that she’s finding excuses. She’s punishing herself just as much by tempting herself with another kiss.

    The back hug!!! Oh wow, their faces, if Hye Won could have seen her own yearning expression perhaps she would stop trying to fool herself. I do understand her wanting to stay in control and not step over her own moral boundaries. But the emotional connection between them is so beautiful and strong! Again, may I please have an earnest, sweet, handsome Seon Jae too? For hugs, and more? A Yoo Ah In lookalike thanks!!

    My final observation on this episode was watching SJ and HW’s playful interactions, laughing and smiling and hugging. Made me smile and feel happy for them, their joy in being together and sharing their love for music. 

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