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Secret Love Affair Episode 8 Recap — 59 Comments

  1. Thanks for the recap! I think jomo has fallen for SJ too, not just HW :D. I adore his honesty with HW, but he needs to come clean to Da Mi too and quick. But of course, there would be no drama if he did right?

    And I’m glad for the “sex scene that wasn’t”. It was the loveliest of love scenes! I appreciated it more after hyperventilating and needing a moment or two to recover. The intimacy of their conversation–CHILLS!!

    • I have been anticipating the blowing up since DM asked HW for help when SJ was in lock up. However, I can understand SJ’s hesitance. How to tell DM such that HW can still be protected from her wrath? To me, DM is one fierce person. She struck me as someone who is capable of screaming adultery at HW at her workplace.

  2. Thanks jomo for the recap! I dread the coming episodes of their relationship being putted. I just hope they still get plenty of time for themselves and enjoy their music than deal with all the BS around them.

  3. Wow jomo, you are waxing lyrical over him. I wasn’t even reading the recaps or watching the show. But ended up reading it after your prologue. Have you ever fallen so hard for a character before? Not fallen… but maybe admire? His attributes. And I don’t mean the physical ones. You really did list down a lot of really great points about this character.

    • I stole, inappropriately enough, the “Love is kind…” from the Bible, and it just happen to fit him.

      SJ isn’t perfect, of course, but I think the writers aren’t even trying to make him real. Like one someone out of a myth or fable, he represents all the good that HW has been ignoring. Maybe he represents how she used to feel about herself, or how she one day will feel about herself?

      More than anything, he is relentless, which usually reads as kind of annoying, as she pointed out to him when she was “Hyung.” LOL

      • Using that Bible verse and applying it to SJ was inspired writing, jomo. Lovely and so appropriate!

  4. Your recaps are necessary component of watching the show. I don’t feel like I’ve watched the episodes until I read them. Thank you for doing them.

    Sun Jae’s flaw is that he can be an impertinant little shit at times. For example, when he said it was good that Hye Won is jealous, I was scoffing in unison with Hye Won. LOL what a thing to say. Nevermind the fact that it’s a totally honest and valid reaction (cause Hye Won is buttoned up all the way, so it is good to see that she cares enough to be jealous) but who says those things? I want to push down the back of his head sometimes. That punk.

    Also I’d really like to see Da Mi be let go. The only reason why maybe it’s not a good idea is that a breakup seemingly out of nowhere would make Da Mi dig deeper to find out things out. And then cue that Hair Pin threatening scene take 2…

  5. This was a very telling episode and I think that the next episode is going to be very stressful for us viewers. When DaMi finds out it’s going to be explosive, don’t know what she’ll do. I think HW will bear the brunt of it. My favorite scene was the jealousy confrontation. HW can’t hide from her feelings anymore.

  6. As usaual by now my random thoughts:

    This episode’s invisible love-making scene will get a special place in Kdrama history, I’m sure. Breathtakingly beautiful, intense, sensual, perfect. (Btw she took her wedding ring off while she stayed in his apartment.)

    I’m so happy, that they decided to show their first time like this. It is a refreshingly different approach to all those over-sexed blunt stuff, we are used to now. I’m no prude, but this showed how sexy taped linoleum can be if it gets the right background score. Loved how they managed to make us care about the love and not the sex in this Secret Love Affair.

    There are lots of discussions going on on the net about did they do the ‘deed’ or not. Everyone who is still in doubt or denial (even after the confirming twitter of a production staff) doesn’t know how to watch a story told in visuals. All the details! Her shoes (no high heels anymore, she reached his level) looking like shoes from a young girl (emotionally they are same aged) pointing inwards. The moment we are to assume, that he entered her, they showed the music scores, the piano, the egg cartons, before that we saw the domestic stuff like e.g. the bowls (so couply).

    I’m in awe of the execution of this scene. All scenes showing both of them in his home are the highlights of each episode for me.

    How he waited before he started to go upstairs knowing that she would be there. He knew exactly what was going to happen. That’s why he wanted to brush his teeth, I think.

    And a naughty question. Are we now supposed to think Sun Jae came in his pants during the Liszt hug as it was his ‘first time’? 😉

    What about the fortune teller? Are we to take him seriously? Or was he briefed by Young Woo who started her own little revenge game against Hye Won? Because Young Woo witnessed endless times, that Hye Won was unwilling to sleep around and always resisted temptation very firmly.

    Rat(ty) husband (I had the same association seeing him sniff out Sun Jae’s apartment!) has really no redeeming virtue whatsoever.

    And finally Hye Won’s elegant jacket. Her world is not upside down, but front to back, as the buttons were positioned there. No, I’m not going to start to talk about her hair in this episode…

    • Not finished yet!

      During the tickling session on his bed (which definitely lead to round two) he asked ‘Are you OK?’ amidst the laughter. How can a woman not fall for this guy!?

      And the lengths he goes to to simply say or write her name…

    • Yes, Newbie, I noticed the shoes too!! No longer high-heeled ones… Ok, I must admit I’ve watched ep 8 TOO MANY times that I’m dissecting every scene and why certain shots were included to convey messages 🙂 LOL!! This drama is my undoing!

    • Nice oberservations!

      In the Piano shoving scene, her cardigan falls off while she is wrestling with SJ. He picks it up, and neatly places it between them on the sofa. As long as she is wearing it as a shield, she thinks she is safe from him and from anyone else trying to uncover her true self. A Cloak of Insincerity, perhaps?

  7. Thanks Jomo for your insightful recaps. Always looking forward to it every week. It really helps me understand a lot of the scenes better. This drama is so refreshing!

  8. Thanks again for the recap. I would say SJ isnt perfect for one reason only at this point. He continues to allow DM to have hope. It makes me really uncomfortable when she told him of all those plans and he couldnt bring himself to tell her.

    I felt so sorry for HW when she was outside his home, spotted them and had to hide like that. I can imagine how mortified and pathetic she must have felt to have to be in that position. To catch yourself, at this age, irresistably drawn to someone and yet have to sneak around in this manner must be awful. Of course, that is not even taking into account the self loathing for cheating.

    I was one of those who loved the way the director chose to ‘show’ the sex scene. I watched live and surmised then that “well, they have showed every part of the house, they must be in bed”. Then, to have the subs in and get to listen in on the conversation that they were having, made it beautiful, intimate and erotic.

    By the way, did anyone notice that her bra was hung on the hanger too? Partially hidden by her top. They really were good with details.

    I cant wait for monday again. The staff from SA tweet suggested that epi 9 is going to be awesome”

      • Its just a strap of black that you see with her top hanging off the hanger :). I am pretty certain.

    • Enz – Good eye. I didn’t notice until I was doing the screen caps, I had to pick between the top and the bottom shot of her clothes. It is definitely neatly hanging there. 🙂

      • Yes, my husband and I noticed the bra, too! But my naughty husband said that if the bra is off, then the panty must be off also. Haha. What touched me about that scene (Hye Won’s clothes and underwear neatly hung) was that I thought that Sun Jae must have hung them so neatly there. I got that idea because when he entered his apartment and saw her shoes, he moved to fix them to face out the door so that she won’t have a hard time when she leaves, which is a very very considerate act for him to do. Anyway, like all of you, I really feel for Sun Jae and his big heart. Hye Won is so lucky to have a guy like him.

  9. Thank you for this recap! I’ve been refreshing like crazy waiting with bated breath for this upload. I must’ve replayed episode 8 hundreds of times, and to my astonishment, I still shed tears during the scene where SJ plays that beautiful piece for HW at the end. That particular piece literally encapsulated how much SJ loves her.

    The “love scene” was tastefully done, and all the shots chosen specifically during this scene was apt! Omo, I am ALWAYS left breathless after his piano performance for HW (fanning myself like crazy!)

  10. Homagaaaah the last scene! My heart went dugun dugun and I think I bit my nails. Too hot to handle! And it’s just because of the “sound”!!

  11. Thanks for the recap and insights, jomo. I love the way YAI and KHA act together and the way the drama has rekindled my interest in classical music. Had to immediately play the Rachmaninov Rhapsody after I heard it. The Not So SLA is still holding my interest, hope it continues.

    • Misty –
      Rachmaninoff!! That’s who that was.

      I put in Tchaikovsky as a place holder and forgot to go back and put in the real composer.

      Love that piece. What a heart starter.

      Whomever runs Arts Events in Seoul should definitely plan a SLA concert for when this is over, or even before. It would be great to take advantage of people’s new or renewed interest in these classics.
      Ooooh! Espcially if they had a couple of special guests perform.

      Can you imagine seeing YAI and KHA all dressed up in their finest on stage? I would pay a lot! They could play Heart and Soul!

      • I can see it! Heart and Soul! (Lol). Yes, it would be worth a trip to Seoul. Heard anything about who is performing the music? YAI and KHA are doing a great job with the fingering, but I’m assuming they are substituting pros for the sound.

      • @Misty
        I found somewhere she is 김수현 (yet another Kim Soo Hyun) who is playing and could also be the music playing coach.
        It was probably on soompi, but for life of me, I cannot find it!

        The google won’t show me anymore. 🙁

  12. Hi, and MUCH THANKS Jomo! That was an insightful commentary = loved reading your interpretation of what everything seemed to symbolize.

  13. I enjoy your recap Jomo . It was refreshing to see a drama portraiting love instead of sex. The way the sex scene was done will draw ones mind to how much love they felt for each other and that it is not a lack of control passion that brought them to this point but pure love . I always hate the way most drama sell sex as love . I hope all shows would borrow a leaf from this . I wonder when DaMi finds out how explosive it going to be. My heart beat in pain about the outcome . So far so good the drama is doing a great job. Thanks to Jomo for without your interest in this show and recapping it in such a beautiful way many of us will not have been aware of it and come to be so invested in it. I appreciate your hard work.

    • The oohlala scene was nice but I wonder if the PD made a conscious decision not to show any make out scenes because of th actual 20yr age gap between the 2 actors just like Prime minister and I.

  14. Thanks for your lovely recap.

    I’m very interested in the story but there are certain type of oppression and social cruelty that are difficult for me to watch.

    Your recaps capture the story and the mood so well that I feel I can follow along without missing anything.

  15. Thanks Koala and Jomo as always for recapping this show. Jomo, what you said about Sun Jae really resonated with me. You call him love and I see all the reasons why but it also makes sense that your quote is from the Bible (which I do not know well at all) since I see a sacred aspect to his love that is struggling perhaps against its more secular expression. In a sense it is like the history of Western classical music itself that began in the church and then became secular. He is taken with her as he is taken with a goddess — a form of adoration. It is only when she hugs him back, that he reacts like a “man” and realizes that she is woman.

    Other than his behavior towards her — which is perfect because she is a goddess – we do not really see too many other dimensions to him and what we do see is normal and not even necessarily that special (behavior towards Da Mi for example — not bad but normal for his age, circumstances etc). In contrast, Hye Won is shown in a full range of interactions — needing to balance so many aspects of her life.

    He is only 20 — he has not had to make any important choices so where is the chance of making any bad ones whose consequences you have to spend a life time dealing with?

    I hope to become a totally great show — it needs to give him some choices as well.

    • MM –
      That is some pretty deep thinking up there. Wow. Great point on his relationship with HW vs the rest of the world.

      What if he is Love and she is simply Music? Fighting to make herself successful, having to make all kinds of compromises in order to remain in the forefront. And by doing so, is self-destructing.

      He comes along to remind us that the pureness of it, the joy, the reason the composers suffered to make themselves heard IS all we should be paying attention to, not just exploit music for the money.

      SJ will be facing some harsh realities and choices coming up, and so will HW. Up to this point, she has done little to protect him. She has done nothing outside of her Elegance Zone in front of anyone else.
      If he starts to be threatened, I fully expect HW to come out and to come through for him. It may not be until the bitter end, but ONLY HW can protect him, and there will have to be an element of sacrifice on her part. I just hope nobody dies.

      • Jomo, unlike you, I expect HW to betray SJ and break his heart. She has too much fear of poverty to get off her hostile but cushy ride. And with fake hyung act, I expect her to manipulate SJ behind the curtains, play with his naiveté and trust.

      • @kngdrama
        It will be interesting to see if the writers go with bitter reality and have her destroy him, or if they want something more hopeful.
        There have been hints from the writers that they like happy endings over devastating ones.
        Oh, and I am willing to bet that YAI, having suffered through Fashion King does, too. He prolly requested to see the last page of the script before even agreeing to talk to them!

      • Jomo, your detailed and eloquent recap is a pleasure to read. Regarding the bitter reality, HW already started to teach SJ that he could live off the rich and have what he wants if he plays by the rules. Those life lessons are poisonous but what if she makes his ACT like she does? Sucking up, getting hit, etc. The boy would probably do it out of love. I hate to think of it.

        She lies, and lies, and lies and she will make him lie. Not only HW took SJ’s physical virginity, she is attempting to groom him and take the virginity of his heart.

  16. Thank you Jomo for a great recapp…

    All I can say is that I’m deeply invested in this show…

    I am experiencing a similar situation: Having an intense relationship with someone younger than me.

    He’s as beautiful and caring as SJ and it’s mindblowing how the writer perfectly captures the feelings of HW…

    The insecurity will always be there because of the age gap…even when she “knows” that he loves her…and she will always long for his love without actually asking for it because she feels that she does not have the right to ask for it…again because of the age gap.

    But she will always be happy like a little girl when they are only the 2 of them…and be a woman and let him be the man…

    and those moments are those that count because they deepen their connection at a level that no one can understand or explain.

    In short, these 2 characters are both real to me, and the actors portraying them are absolutely amazing.

    And the writing as well as the directing are spot on.

    • This story makes me very very happy.
      We have our own Noona-Dongsang here in the house!
      I love that you have someone to cherish you and that you realize what a gift that is. Sending you positive waves to keep it that way
      ♥ ~~~~~~~~ ♥

    • That’s so sweet! I knew some people out there have the same experience as HW-LSJ do, because I’ve seen this kind of couple before too. Thanks for sharing your story 🙂

  17. i didnt underestand the last part of this episode, did that conversation mean sleeping together? did they have sex or not?

  18. Jomo! SJ replaced the king in white pajamas waiting for the dead girl for show up?!!! (The Moon/Sun reference).

    Thank you for the recap. The Bible reference is sweet if only he did not covet his neighbor’s wife.

    As you wrote, unmasking HW to the core continues but I cant’s see anything in the “core.” Youth wasted on kissing up to rich and powerful, absence of love and care, she seems cold and tough with friends and there is no sign of her family. Her world is tiny like a mouse trap. With all the masks off, she is pretty much a wounded narcissist with unrealized ambitions and secretly harbored hatred for the ones she serves.

    No more virgin SJ! Their physical intimacy is sweet and carefree. She probably got more touching in one evening than she had during the entire marriage with the Rat.

    Physical aspect of sweet love is very healing for the soul. A well-loved woman is happy and glowing. So far, I haven’t seen anyone in the drama being truly happy. Time for HW to shine (even more now).

    I am probably the only one who feels sorry for the Rat. HW was his partner in the rat race and now she is slipping away. I despise Rat’s choices but feel pity for his feelings – to see a young, talented lover being brought to his house, to watch them together everywhere, in school, at home. His insecurity and quiet despair coupled with cowardly spying are painful to watch. Whatever shaman says, the Rat knows the truth – it is written on his wife’s face.

    • That Rat is a coward! Instead of reacting like a normal husband would — with jealousy and rage — he has chosen to keep quiet. Why? Because he needs both Hye Won and Sun Jae for his career! He is not pitiful at all, but deserving of contempt. If he is suffering now, he deserves it because he has chosen career over self-respect and love.

      • I agree that the husband (I think of him as The Weasel, rather than The Rat) does not deserve our sympathy. I laughed at his expense and did not feel bad about it when he went to the fortune teller. What a predicament! Lol

        The actor is doing a fantastic job portraying Joon Hyung. He was also really good playing a jerk of a husband in A Wife’s Credentials. I wonder how one would feel as an actor when you keep getting asked to play a weasel-looking character? Lol

  19. Thanks Jomo! I have actually been waiting for your recaps on this! As each episode goes by HW wall of coldness is slowly melting away by SJ. Honestly, things that she say to him and the way she acts sometimes – if he didn’t love her the way he did, I believe that kind of behaviour would have made him just desert any kind of romantic feelings of her. I knew from the get go not to expect much for the sex scene because it is a Korean drama. It was quite beautiful the way they shot the and that conversation filled with so much sexual shade.
    Right now I have no idea where this story will take me. Will their affair become more intense? Can SJ have the strength to keep it a secret and ignore the fact that she is a married couple? Will HW put her feelings of happiness before her want of power and money?
    We still have a fair bit to go with in this drama. Though every small happiness that our OTP is experiencing now is preparing us for that chance that everything is going to fall apart.

  20. Every scene is so full of details and when we come back rewatching it we find something new. I love you, show! 5here are lots of favorite scenes~ their discussion in the piano room and he cries because he feels sad about her life, the texting moment from the toilet which is so cute, the poetic and mind blowing love-making, their SO natural conversation after that. I effin love them all! I love how you describe SJ by borrowing 1 Cor 13, Jomo. Seon Jae is love. This show is love.

  21. Thanks Jomo for the recap. Love your insights. I really enjoyed and appreciate the parallels and differences that you have pointed out. I can see SJ’s relentless and almost obsessive pursue of HW, knowing that she is married, is from another social strata (he has steered clear from them, HW is the only exception) and is his teacher not to mention his professor’s wife. I am curious where SJ gets his courage from? On top of that, like you have pointed out, it is not like he was encouraged by HW right at the onset. How is it like to love without constraints? I am curious as to the ending and what the author wants us to know and understand from this narrative.

    • I would say that Seon Jae doesn’t pursue Hye Won but only after their first kiss. Up until then, he adores her but I doubt he even thought of stealing her from her husband. But after that first kiss, when he knew she somewhat reciprocated, he no longer can ignore his feelings for her. As what he said to Hye Won, he can’t forget that kiss even if his afraid.

    • I hope you dont mind me sharing my thoughts on this. To me, when they met and had that musical connection, beauty, adoration, music, sexual excitement all collided into one being for SJ and that being was HW. He has since then just acted on the force of those feelings, completely uncalculated in his actions and prob because of his age, uncalculating of the possible fallout for them too. ( although aware enough to know it should be kept hidden to protect her)

      It would be really interesting when, as mohini’s mom pointed out, he has to make real choices with full consciousness of consequences instead of just acting on the force of his emotions.

  22. I just want to say that I love this show. Please be a good show till the end! And thanks for the beautiful recaps, Jomo & Koala ♥

  23. Just caught SLA n watching 2nd rd.. Aft this ep revelation that SJ may ve came in the hug in ep 6 hug, re watching ep 6 u c great hints of that – HW widened eyes when she caught his enlarged member.. The super tight squeeze of a hug fr SJ possibly to crush his erection n HY near tears fr shock she can still command that reaction at her age? Or is it her inability to hide her own arousal by that hug n hence the comment in this ep that he might ve an inkling she’s nt a player..

    Anyway their chemistry is so gd I’m hot n bothered whenever they r on screen..

  24. 5 years later I’m watching SLA for first time… actually the third time thru in one week. Thank you everyone for your comments, I must watch it again with all your insights in mind!
    How can I own this exquisite show? I need subtitles, though. Inspires me to learn Korean just to watch this authentically.

  25. Who knows if anyone will ever read my comments this late but I still feel the need to share my thoughts for this amazing drama.

    Da Mi, why didn’t she tell Seon Jae that she saw his sneaky little man prof on the stairs?? Those stairs only go to his place. Especially while they were talking about his teacher. Also, SJ was familiar with HW’s car, he was looking around for her, yet didn’t notice her car as he walked past it?? SJ started to break up with DM but changed his mind. My thought was because he may have needed to spend a longer time with DM if he did and he was in a hurry to get home in case HW came. 

    The jealousy scene!! Once again Seon Jae understood her feelings before she herself did. KHA did an awesome job here. Loved SJ’s happiness that she was finally demonstrating care for him. And his tears, not for himself but for her, tore my heart out. YAI is incredible at portraying emotions! 

    SJ perceptively notes how his love is so out of place in her scary world. I was glad also when he stood up for himself, gently but firmly asking that she have more consideration for his feelings. Despite his youth he already knows that love takes effort but is worth it in the end. His words greatly affect her and cause her pause.

    The pots and pans scene is one of the best intimate scenes I’ve seen, ever! In the US there’s usually too much shown and the sex is the focus while here as someone else pointed out it’s the love. Hearing them confess their nervousness and being vulnerable with one another, his concern that she’s ok, their quiet sounds, wonderful way to film their first time. Then to see how comfortable and happy they felt together afterwards as their physical closeness brought them emotionally closer as well. And finally their joyful silliness wrestling on his bed, and joyful contentment as he plays a soft song for her on his piano. Sigh. Lovely!! 

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